Friendship... or something like that.
i know that i have been brash in my last few posts… lots of complaints and the such.
i am sorry. no excuses, just sorry.
events have come to light recently that have once again made me examine what i have, wait, no check that, who i have in my life…
you see there are those people who stroll through our lives… they don’t make much of an impression, in a few years you’ll find that even the really vivid memories of them are a little hazy, the what i call ‘memorable acquaintance’ people.
then there are those people who make more of an impact in our lives… but still manage to drift away… occasionally touching base… random emails… errant Christmas card… you know… the ‘causal friend’ people.
additionally, there are those people who are the real gems. i am talking about those who constantly surprise you with their generosity, and their truly heart-felt kindness. this is the kind of person who, if you called for aid at 3 in the morning, would reply with “what time do you want me there?” instead of “do you know what time it is?!” these are the ‘true friend’ or ‘family/friend’ people.
there are so many aspects of my life that i am truly thankful for, and yes, if it came down to it, and i actually had to count, it is beyond a doubt that there is more good things than bad for me right now.
above all else, i am truly thankful for all my family and all my true friends.
don't get me wrong, i am thankful for all the people in my life, but above all else i am thankful for the above group.
that being said, two things happened yesterday that made me question the importance of friendship and subsequently where different people i know fall on the above spectrum, again, i know that there are those who fall in between the three aforementioned categories and some people still who cannot be appropriately pigeon-holed above either. but for the sake of this rant, lets stick to the above three groups.
if you are lucky enough to have a someone in your life who is to you a ‘true-friend’ person... be thankful for them, and please, be that kind of person for them too. they will probably not expect you be there for them all the time. but if their ‘back was to the wall’ and they had very limited options... pleased come thru for them, don’t let them down.
you know if the situations were reversed, they’d be there for you in half a heartbeat.
it is a rare and particular fulfilling joy to have a friend come thru for you. the kind of joy/memory/emotion that really sticks with you. conversely, it is the worst, most sickening feeling, to have someone you believed in/trusted/hoped for let you down when you needed them the most... and like a really deep scar, that too sticks with you.
that is all i have to say about that.
